I have a friend auditioning for The Voice this weekend. She’s not telling many people because she doesn’t want to make too big a deal about it or get anyone’s hopes up (including her own maybe?). I want to tell her: please don’t let these judges—no matter how talented, powerful, or accomplished they may be—define you. Don’t let your enjoyment of the moment depend on their reaction to it. This is, of course, easier said than done.